VJ Bani, ex-Roadies contestant has successfully managed to make a mark as a fitness icon. But it wasn’t an easy journey for VJ turned actor Bani J, who has been a victim of body shaming.
Well She said – “There were constant questions, sometimes to my face, sometimes just blatantly visible on their faces. Industry people were most offensive. I still remember a well-known casting director who asked me if I had become a man yet; had I grown a p**is yet? Seriously, she did! So what if I’m a woman and I have muscles? My plan was to unlock my strength — physical and mental and I am sticking to it.
I love to work out. I am passionate about it. I always fight for what’s right, I don’t take anything lying down. And I wanted to be a strong person, both mentally and physically. So I didn’t let others tell me otherwise”.
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‘Lifting weights will make you look manly’I ‘You’re not a girly girl if you lift weights’ ‘I don’t lift weights because I just want to ‘tone up” ‘Girls should only do cardio, lifting is for guys’ ‘So what steroids are you on’ ‘That’s way too much muscle.. For a woman’ _____________________________________________ All of the above and so much more. I’ve heard it all. And not once because I actually cared enough to ask, ‘hey, what do *you* think of *my* body?’. I never entered the gym because of what people said I ‘should/ ought to/ must’ look like. I went in there to get strong, to be active, to be healthy, to sweat = to feel better, and more ME. ____________________________________________ I can’t remember the last time the thought of ‘will this be attractive to so and so’ crossed my mind in relation to myself – let alone to me lifting weight. It doesn’t happen. I love me so much and that’s all that matters, I am so happy (blame all the endorphins) doing what I do day in and out that all else is tuned out. This is something I’ve gotten better at accepting and allowing day by day. That’s why you will always hear people say ‘it’s not just physical, it’s so much more MENTAL’ because to get to where you want to go, you have to look within and really be true to yourself and know that yes, this is what I’m about. This is what matters, this puts me in alignment and makes me a more joyful happy productive being. And guess what? You’ll end up inspiring and encouraging and being that source for other people along the path too. I don’t go around telling people they should eat healthier or lift or try to lose weight, you do you. I’ll do me. If someone asks for help I will always do what I can, I recognise the quest – but you need to recognise whether the desire really is there in you or not. Why else do you think we don’t see more people walking around with their Tupperware containers looking hench af? Because, if your hearts not in it, no matter how much you try – you’ll never get there. Cold hard honest truth. Just like cold hard iron, work and discipline. Just wanted to share that with y’all fam. Do you 🙌🏽💛 #doyou #everyday #womenwholift #loa
Dear Pike progressions, I will conquer you. Sincerely, My sore and achey forearms, delts, wrists and abs. _____ Lol. _____ Also, this is great for anyone who wants to train their arms, Delts, core and forearms. _____ Ever since I trained for the gymnastics act in #icdt last year I’ve been secretly itching to get onto some bars and rings to continue learning everything Gymnastics. ____ Slow, steady and supremely sore, I will get there. #strive #progress #evolve #everyday #indianwomenrepresent #youknowit #thanksabbasforshootingme #allthecarbs #allofthetime #steady #higher #pikeProgression #intime
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Whoa. Hot. Manly. Ew. Ugly. Wow. Beautiful. Wow. Goals. Bae. Wtf. Gross. Respect. Fuck. Hardcore. Be a girl. You’re becoming a man.🔥 😍. . A lot of people like to throw these words/ emojis around. Just like they love to throw their opinions in your face, shove them down your throat and then stuff you until you suffocate into a neat little column or box and file you away where you can no longer serve as a threat to their narrow minded, never expanding nor evolving selves. ‘They’ don’t have the patience, the space in those tiny heads that are kept at alarmingly limited capacities by believing all the shit they have been fed. Beliefs of how one is supposed to BE, THINK, BEHAVE and ofcourse LOOK. If you’ve been following my posts, one thing you’ll know for sure is that I’m not necessarily fond of giving a fuck to that particular school of… nonexistantthought. Ha, the irony. Just felt like reminding you beautiful supportive lot that. Don’t look for validation from outside of yourselves, don’t get into that column and box just to make someone else happy, do what feels right for you, what makes you happy. look within, it’s there. All you ever need. Now go forth, give no fucks. If you’ve been tagged in this post it’s because I love you for allowing me to BE me and do what makes me happy and thus live more of what my goal is 🙂 <> #authentic #trueself #happy #beyouDoyou #always #religiousonanotherlevel #nxtlvlsht #nofcksgiven #unlabel #unapologetic #healthy #fitness #inspire #dowhatyoulove